君子协定

美国波士顿犹太人屠杀纪念碑上，刻着一个名叫马丁·尼莫拉的德国新教神甫留下的一段话：起初他们追杀共产主义者，我不是共产主义者，我不说话；接着他们追杀犹太人，我不是犹太人，我不说话；此后他们追杀天主教徒，我不是天主教徒，我不说话；最后他们奔我而来，再也没人站起来为我说话了。

觉得电影《君子协定》在很多片段都是与苏打绿的《他举起右手点名》是契合的，世界只要继续任凭偏见游荡，那就远远不会只有一个希特勒。

【这是众人共谋的一个恶游戏】就像影片中的主角菲尔克林，当大假扮犹太人感受欺辱时，他觉得世界都邪恶了，这分丑陋源自众人带有邪恶意味的歧视。

【时间是不存在的 让恶梦喂养】永无休止的排斥，犹太人被隔离在所有规则之外，连时间都不属于他们，吃饭被嫌弃，工作被拒绝，生存的价值被无情剥夺。

【被逼迫着走了岔路，还能活着再见吗】虽然没有出现纳粹式的屠杀，但这精神谋杀也足以让犹太人无路可走，做好事做坏事不是评判犹太人的标准，因为他们生下就被贴上劣质标签，在娘胎里就被送上了一条阴暗无光的不归路。

【移民 俘虏 同性恋 吉普赛 犹太，有没有它这么恨我们的八卦】随着人类文明的滚滚向前，歧视从未退出历史舞台，只是在不断变换被歧视的角色，只是看谁这么倒霉被隔离开外。就像菲儿贴上犹太标签后，做什么都被有色眼镜看待，他成了异类。

【几十年后 世界会不会还一样】世界上绝对不会只有一个希特勒，希特勒只是代表了一种集体歧视的暴虐，看看餐厅里那些有优越感的上流人，看看那拒绝男主入住的酒店老板，在精神上的残酷丝毫不逊色希特勒。我们身边也还是一样，“他穷，不跟他玩”、“他是南方人，小气”、“他跟别人不一样，好奇怪”，这个世界就是一个炼人炉，循环往复。

【令人愤慨的不是受苦，而是受这苦没理由】菲尔儿子在学校受到辱骂，他天真的眼神里充满忧伤不解，他从来没有觉得犹太人怎样不好，可当他被当成犹太小孩时，没想到会被如此可怕对待，为什么会这样，凭什么？不应该！

【看官们 若有选择，你会当受害者或刽子手】菲尔和凯西的情感矛盾被这句歌词诠释了，你说你不歧视犹太人就可以安静的看着眼前被屈辱的犹太人么？在歧视偏见的环境里，你的沉默杀人于无形，因为你纵容了偏见的滋生，你助纣为虐，你侥幸苟活换来更多人的受难，你比那些直截了当的歧视者还让人愤恨，无作为是最大的作为，是大恶！

【因为他的不公，才有了第一个杀人犯】哪里有压迫哪里就有反抗，电影里只是战场前期的预示，如果没有人站出来抗争质疑，那么杀戮是平息仇恨的最好利器。

【天 毒气已四溢 我逐渐失去我】菲尔再被当成犹太人之后性格不再那么儒雅，他的环境让他悠闲不起来，他成了人世间过街喊打的老鼠，人们的愚钝让他一时间难以承受。他愤怒不解，想做些什么却连心爱的女人都不予以支持，龟缩犬儒。

（脱下你的衣和帽！）
我的手 （打开你的齿和嘴！）
我的脸（检查你的心和肾！）
我的疯狂 （剥离你的灵和魂！）
我 （为什么要相信你！）
我的手 （你哪里会是真理！）
我的脸（谁管是不是经典！）
我的疯狂（谁管有没有页数！）
我 （苏菲湿婆请解救！）
我的手 （圣哲神佛都入堕！）
我的脸 （轮回涅磐谁操纵！）
我的疯狂（如你一般怎么做！）
我 （出草火大风大中！）
我的手 （群星早已经坠落！）
我的脸（תשובה סליחה גאולה）
我的疯狂（ॐ मणि पद्मे हूँ）
嘘 别吵
想安稳睡个觉就等着进坟场
喂 使者 有橄榄枝
我看到人带来
我很想 想到家 脸觉得快 快乐
满口谵语 数到七 或许我有 罪
为何我有罪
若我说他也

一曲作罢，电影大团圆。这不是一部爱情电影，它主张反对歧视偏见，让地球上所有人平等自由的活着，我们都一样。原来鲁迅笔下的看客不仅仅是中国特产，吃瓜群众快快觉醒吧，你的熟视无睹只会助推社会的畸形，独善其身有时候的怯懦自保，站起来呐喊吧，用行动改变社会的样貌，做时代的粉刷匠。张口说话的力量不容小觑，一个人是耳旁风，千万人就是飓风。

Gentleman’s Agreement is a movie that tells a story about a journalist’s experience of pretending to be a Jew to write an article about anti-Semitism.

What is problematic?
Anti-Semitism was thriving at that time. Jewish people could not even have a job because of their racial identity. Dominant white Christian culture did not tolerant Jewish culture. Therefore, Jewish people were suffering from discrimination in every aspect of their lives. For instance, Jewish people had to conceal their Jewish identity in order to get a job. In the movie, the Jewish secretary Wales had to change her name in order to get the job. And when Tommy’s classmates knew that Tommy was a Jew, they teased him and isolated him because of his Jewish identity. The dominant White Christian culture took control of the society at that time. The social environment at that time was full of discrimination and attacks to Jewish people. The ignorance to other culture made there was no room for other cultures. The dominant position of white Christian culture over Jewish culture resulted in the misunderstanding and lacking of knowledge about minor culture in the society. The Jewish people could not speak out their voices because they were suppressed by the dominant white culture, which led to the miscommunication between Christian people and Jewish people even though they had no intention to do so. For instance, Kathy as a typical “nice” Christian, thought that being silent and feeling guilty when someone told a joke depreciating Jews was an action to against anti-Semitism. She did not know that this was not enough, actions to against those anti-Semitism in her group was the most effective way to alleviate the situation of Jews.
Also, the journalist Philip also experienced ups and downs in his relationship with his fiancée Kathy because of Philip’s experiment of pretending to be a Jew. Philip tried to act and think like a Jew and experienced what a Jew might suffer at that time in person. While Kathy’s acts did not meet his criteria for a soul mate who can take the right side towards anti-Semitism. However, Kathy thought that she was against anti-Semitism and was on the same side as Philip. The way they perceive anti-Semitism is different because they have different personalities. Therefore, this miscommunication caused conflicts between them.

What are the power relations?
Dominant white culture was absolutely over the Jewish culture at that time. Dave is a real Jew and he grew up with Philip. Although Philip is not a Jew, he has strong empathy to what Jewish people feel because his relationship with Dave. However, Philip still had social power identity over Dave. However, Philip’s acts to call for rights for Jews were embedded in his dominant cultural identity. White Christians have totally right of speech at that time. They determined the social realities. No one would like to listen to a Jew’s opinion. Dominant culture would not treat them seriously. However, white Christian guy Philip’s experience and opinions about anti-Semitism became a hot topic at that time because it made people started to rethink the Jewish culture.
What I also noticed was that the masculinity was also over feminity . In their relationship, Philip’s masculinity is obvious. Kathy did not express what she really felt straightforwardly. She haven’t spoken her heart until when Philip criticized her that she has an inherent superiority feeling towards Jewish people and their relationship almost broke down. At that very moment, Kathy cried and argued to Philip that, “You are what you are for the on life you have”. She explained that she has no choice to choose born as a Christian. For Kathy, she thought she was no wrong because she born with her Christian identity. She insisted that she was in the “nice people” group. However, for Philip, Kathy’s inactive action towards anti-Semitism also supported anti-Semitism in some way. Besides, people have different expectation towards Kathy and Philip. In the ending part of the movie, Anne invited Philip for dinner and persuaded Philip that it was not Kathy’s duty to fight for the Jewish people. Kathy was not supposed to do that because of her gender.

How do you see people negotiating?
We can tell the difference between how women and men faces conflicts in a relationship in this movie. When facing conflict, different gender has different negotiation method towards it. When Philip and Kathy had conflict, Philip told Kathy directly how he felt and argued with Kathy angrily. While for Kathy, she tended to hide her feelings and find the third party for help. We can tell that Philip was using low context to deal with the conflict, while Kathy responded to it in relatively high context. In the ending of the movie, when Philip was angry about Kathy because he thought she has superiority over Jews and she did nothing about it. Kathy found the third party, Philip and Kathy’s common friend Dave, to help analyzing the relationship. Therefore, Kathy has very interdependent personality while Philip is very independent. Philip told Kathy how he feels directly while Kathy hadn’t spoken out her idea until she thought they were going to break up. And then, Kathy turned to the third party for help to mend this relationship. That is very interdependent characteristic. In the society, women usually are expected to be submissive and supportive to their partner, even though they may not agree to them. However, a man is encouraged to act direct and controlling in a relationship, especially in a romantic relationship. Especially, Kathy is a divorced woman, so she acted even more careful and doubtful in the relationship.
Also, in the movie, the real Jew Dave and Ms. Wales seemed to be inactive in the anti-Semitism cause. They got used to hide their identity to blend in the society that controlled by the dominant culture. They tended to be silent. They had to rely on their dominant friends to speak out their needs for equality and rights. In contrast, Philip as a white Christian man who was educated and encouraged to speak, acted agitatedly when he was treated unfairly in the hotel and the post office because of his fake Jewish identity. Philip was sensitive and expressed all of his feelings of being sick of anti-Semitism when he pretended to be a Jew. This interesting contrast indicates that how social environment can affect people’s way to negotiate when facing with conflicts.

P.S. Kathy argued with Phil: "You are what you are for the one life you have, you can't help being born Christian instead of Jewish, it doesn't mean you glad you were, but I am glad, There, I said it, I'd be terrible, I'm glad I'm not. I could never make you understand that, You could never understand that it is a fact like being glad you are good-looking instead of ugly, rich instead of poor, young instead of old, healthy instead of sick. You could never understand that. It's just a practical fact,not judgement that I'm superior, but I could never make you see that. You twisted something into horrible, a conniving, an aiding and abetting a thing that I loathe as much as you do. "

When Kathy told Dave that a man said a joke about disgrace on Jewish, Kathy said that she hated it and wanted to tell everyone that this was not good, however, what she actually did was just sat there and felt ashamed.
"If you don't stop that joke, where do you stop?"